Sunday, January 24, 2010

That's enough

That's it! I've had it! I am so tired of just settling because it's what everyone else is doing; because it's just the way that it is; because they're going to do it anyway; because it's not really a big deal; because it isn't really hurting anyone.

Well, crap! (And yes, I know that I said crap. I'm mad!) It is hurting someone; it's hurting God. And it's hurting me and my family. And millions of other people in this world.

I just watched a movie on Lifetime, "The Pregnancy Pact." I knew from the previews what it would be about but I still wanted to see it. And I am so steaming mad right now. I am so tired of people cramming it down my throat that having sex isn't really that bad. Just give kids protection and it's fine to let 'em have at it. (And while we're at it, let 'em drink until they puke, too. -But that's a topic for another day.) Cause they're not hurting anyone, everyone does it, what's the big deal?

When did we lose our self-respect? When did it become okay to trample on God's word and call it harmless fun? Everywhere you look now it's considered just one of those things that everyone does. Sex sells. It's everywhere, in your face, on billboards, commercials, magazines, children's shows!! You can't go into a store and buy girls clothes without being bombarded by sex. Being sexy is the "in" thing to be.

This movie had an ulterior motive as well. Let's get rid of abstinence only programs and offer contraception to all the kids. Cause, you know, they're already doing it so let's make sure they're protected. Well, crap. (There, I said it again.) That is such faulty logic. (And something I used to spout myself) Just because someone is doing something wrong does not mean we should say well, okay, here- do it some more. And if any of my kids comes to me and says they are having sex, do I want them to be safe? Well, yes. But I believe the only way to be truly safe is to not have sex until you are married. Why is it such a bad thing to teach children? And why not say that if you've already had sex, it isn't too late to protect yourself now. Just start over. Try abstinence again. Bristol Palin is doing that. And she's getting skewered for it. And I just don't get it.

I don't see how anyone can say that people having sex with whomever they want, whenever they want, as often as they want is not a bad thing. The truth is, I can't say too much about it from experience. I had sex for the first time at 20, with a guy I was madly in love with and he was living with his girlfriend and their daughter at the time. (They were also living with his mother and brothers and sister. And I was living there, too. Crazy times.) I wanted to have sex with him; it's all I thought about for months. And afterwards, (A month or two afterwards) all I could think is "Why?" Why on earth did I lose my virginity to him? And then it was easy to keep to myself until Hub came along. Now, again, I didn't do the right thing. Hub and I had sex before we got married; we even lived together. But the fact that I am the only person he has ever had sex with is something I treasure. I wish I could have given him such a wonderful gift.

And there are other things I did in my past relating to sex that I am not proud of. Things that have hindered my relationship with the Lord, and with my wonderful Hub. I spend time even now being ashamed of my body and things I've done with it and it affects my sex life now. And yet, I hurt no one by having sex before marriage????? That's what the world is trying to tell me. And it's a load of crap.

God is the only pure, perfect, Holy being there ever was. And He says that it's wrong to have sex outside of marriage. And even if we don't understand why He says that, it's true. He does not lie. And it's something we should obey. I don't think that obedience is saying it's okay if people have sex, since they're already doing it, since they're going to anyway, since it isn't hurting anyone. Allowing it to go on is wrong. We should be taking a stand and teaching our children that God created sex. He created it to be a pure, perfect, wonderful thing to be shared between a husband and a wife. And if it is done the right way, in the right time, it is such a beautiful thing. And I'm tired of letting it become perverted. And regardless of what the world thinks, my children will be taught that sex should be reserved for marriage, the way our Lord and Saviour intended it to be.


Mama J said...

Amen! I had to come on over and check you out. We have a lot in common...and my B-day is just 2 days before yours!

Pam, mom, honey, said...

i have a one word comment. AMEN SISTER. well maybe it is 2 words

Jackiedlc said...

Mae, i totally agree with you.

The sad thing is the Bible said it would get worse before it became perfec again.. We are living in the last days of time, am not saying that because of that we should forget or ignore God's commands, not at all-

My main priority is pray and guide my children in the ways of the Lord- That when the world is saying yes do this - They can turn to the Word of God and know exactly where they need to go.. Well at least i can

God bless my dear- A mother's job is never done..

Michelle said...

Sorry I didn't comment on this earlier. I TOTALLY agree. Amen.

Love you!

Sharon said...

Such a well written post, Mae!!

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